I don’t want to be a housewife

“I DON’T WANT TO BE A HOUSEWIFE!!!”

I was crying in the kitchen over a pot of oatmeal that I was cooking for breakfast – and I was pissed off.

I hit a limit in my patience, and it felt like I was consistently doing things that I simply didn’t want to do.

I don’t like cleaning my house.

I don’t like cooking most meals.

I’m not a Pinterest mom – and as much as I LOVE my kid – I don’t want to spend all my time with a toddler.

There’s nothing wrong with women who do like that – but it’s just not me.

Can you relate?

And we have to CHOOSE to do what truly lights us up… because #happywifehappylife is real y’all, and the only person who can actually make you happy is you.

(Although your man would LOVE the opportunity to make you happier.. but that’s a conversation for another time… )

And yet here I was, pissed AF bc I had agreed to things that were a big no to me… while resenting my husband for not helping more.

How cliche.

I needed a dose of my own medicine – because if there is one thing I know, it’s that no one else is responsible for my stuck-ness.

Because I choose not to subscribe to the common narrative out there that is normalizing relationships where women are always left unsatisfied in their marriages.

So I did something that many women aren’t doing with their man:

I told him the truth about how I FEEL (frustrated) and not the 1-sided story I was choosing to live (“Why do I always have to be the one to… XYZ?”)

And then, I listened to him.

Without fighting to be right.

And in this place of mutual understanding – and with the desire that

BOTH OF US WIN…

He made a suggestion that solved both of our problems.

Because when you actually give your man space, trust and respect, he will surprise you with his unique genius and gifts.

I’m a visionary woman.

I have big dreams.

I was put on this Earth to do amazing things.

I can’t do that if I keep putting myself in a pattern of compromise and disappointment.

And neither can you.

Your deep happiness is the most important missing piece for both you and your man.

Reclaim it.

PS – Have you listened to my Women Healing podcast yet? Learn how to drop all your limiting beliefs and energetic weights that are keeping you stuck, so you can have it all in marriage, money, motherhood! Link for my podcast here: https://womenhealing.captivate.fm/